tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3876281636657645444.post7922239154400754927..comments2023-11-05T06:46:15.878-05:00Comments on The Blushing Hostess Entertains: Today's funerals: The Father of a Friend and DecorumThe Blushing Hostesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16303502206261407536noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3876281636657645444.post-87091565496383930382009-01-13T10:05:00.000-05:002009-01-13T10:05:00.000-05:00Dear Jan at Rosemary Cottage, Northside, Teaorwine...Dear Jan at Rosemary Cottage, Northside, Teaorwine (I'll have both!) - Be fearless and undeterred on your course while modern and style-savvy in interpretation and remember, I will always have your back. Be well,<BR/>The HostessThe Blushing Hostesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16303502206261407536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3876281636657645444.post-24579929137980243062009-01-13T09:54:00.000-05:002009-01-13T09:54:00.000-05:00When I dress correctly (suitable dress and even a ...When I dress correctly (suitable dress and even a hat and gloves) these days -- I find that people actually stare at me -- as though I have committed the worst social gaffe. In fact some folks even comment -- quite rudely about my "dressing up"!! Sigh. The last wedding I attended -- I wore a black-and-cream toile dress with a cream jacket (switched to a cream shawl later in the evening), creamy "Louise Green" hat, gloves and shoes. As usual -- even though it was a hot summer day in Dallas -- I was the only lady in a hat! And people looked at me as though watching a sideshow freak! One gal asked me "Do you ALWAYS wear hats? -- my grandmother was the last person to wear hats!!" Sigh.<BR/><BR/><BR/>Jan at Rosemary CottageTeacatshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06899566893360863672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3876281636657645444.post-44642568011324809792009-01-12T18:41:00.000-05:002009-01-12T18:41:00.000-05:00Oh thank you, what I consider to be common sense, ...Oh thank you, what I consider to be common sense, and courtesy, is lost on an entire generation of people. Although I once saw a woman, easily in her sixties, in a short short sundress and flip flops at the funeral of one of her contemporaries. Dress up, clean up, go forth and show your respect. Thank you!northsidefourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04021998139776276601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3876281636657645444.post-18901751544424526562009-01-11T13:53:00.000-05:002009-01-11T13:53:00.000-05:00I too agree. A funeral ensemble of sorts should be...I too agree. A funeral ensemble of sorts should be maintained and ready for wear, should a need occur. Heavy, glittery jewelry in large quantities should be avoided at all costs. A nice string of pearls will suffice.teaorwinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17569214378018984731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3876281636657645444.post-43965800673175484872009-01-11T10:44:00.000-05:002009-01-11T10:44:00.000-05:00Hostess: thank you for your lovely comment. The t...Hostess: thank you for your lovely comment. The term Beau-Pere actually refers to one's father-in-law. (MIL would be Belle-Mere and Brother in law would be Beau-Frere, etc.) Because my in-laws are Quebecois I adopted the french terms when I married. And I think they kind of sound better. <BR/>I have come to understand that these familiar terms are a bit outdated on the continent.~Tessa~Scoffshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14026251653030390293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3876281636657645444.post-44544881704569316082009-01-11T01:54:00.000-05:002009-01-11T01:54:00.000-05:00I was/ am (?)stumped for a moment, Tessa. I lived ...I was/ am (?)stumped for a moment, Tessa. I lived in France and took French for many years and was still somehow unfamiliar with the term beau-pere. I almost had to appeal to Aesthete for help... If this is indeed correct, I am sorry for the loss of your Father and friend, and for his dear Friend. <BR/><BR/>I was only six weeks past the birth of our first child when my Dad passed away very young the same week as my Brother's wedding. I found it a challenge to sep away for a moment to find something to wear, and frankly, I had no interest in being out - everything was quite destroyed for me then and I just wanted to be with my little girl... but I found several dresses which carried me through the proceedings though I never wore them again. It is with a certain agony that I see them still. I will save them for my daughter, they will not carry the stigma for her they do for me.<BR/><BR/>Be well, The HostessThe Blushing Hostesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16303502206261407536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3876281636657645444.post-3576948934495712872009-01-10T21:30:00.000-05:002009-01-10T21:30:00.000-05:00Last year I had the unfortunate opportunity of hav...Last year I had the unfortunate opportunity of having to dress for my beloved beau-pere's funeral and then once again this year for his best friend who was buried with full military honors at Ft. Rosecrans. On both occasions I wore a black suit with a dark purple scalloped-neck blouse. Madame D'Ariaux recommends wearing absolutely no jewelry to funerals but I felt I couldn't go totaly without and wore a few understated onyx pieces to both funerals. <BR/>I enjoy your posts on manners and although I have worn black to a few weddings (I live in So. Cal.) I concur whole-heartedly with your opinions on cheese.~Tessa~Scoffshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14026251653030390293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3876281636657645444.post-42137497754295568922009-01-10T19:01:00.001-05:002009-01-10T19:01:00.001-05:00Daring, that is...Daring, that is...The Blushing Hostesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16303502206261407536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3876281636657645444.post-58971661403393972662009-01-10T19:01:00.000-05:002009-01-10T19:01:00.000-05:00Chic, yes, okay, agreed. Grandstanding, no. This i...Chic, yes, okay, agreed. Grandstanding, no. This is a fine and critical line. I have not seen a veil at a funeral in... since I was a child, probably. Or on older ladies going to funerals in the North End of Boston. They are beautiful when not moth-eaten. In a culture which seems not to appriciate them, it would be lovely to see women dairing enough to return them to regularity in certain circles, anyway.The Blushing Hostesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16303502206261407536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3876281636657645444.post-59320777244098152552009-01-10T18:35:00.000-05:002009-01-10T18:35:00.000-05:00I know this won't sound correct, but honestly, the...I know this won't sound correct, but honestly, there is no reason NOT to be chic at a funeral. Dressing impeccably at such a moment speaks well of the departed and acknowledges the gravity of the occasion. Grand women from grand old families always have a full funeral ensemble at the ready, just in case; there is no reason everybody shouldn't. And if one is a woman, don't forget the hat with an appropriate veil, just a soupcon of black net will do. It just looks correct.An Aesthete's Lamenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09620941811191294750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3876281636657645444.post-19840430531746496382009-01-10T11:47:00.000-05:002009-01-10T11:47:00.000-05:00I couldn't agree more. I can't stand to see people...I couldn't agree more. I can't stand to see people who dress like they are still in frat-boy mode when attending a funeral or wedding. This goes for both men and women. Please, please, please, if at no other time in your life, show respect to the deceased and or the bride/groom by dressing appropriately!! Borrow from someone else if you have to.Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02730321322541662456noreply@blogger.com